tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post5252904464563685091..comments2024-02-10T02:18:24.021-08:00Comments on Or so I thought: Sometimes it's better to just shut the hell upIan Lidsterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14106994463366766471noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-64763356920460246192009-04-26T04:54:00.000-07:002009-04-26T04:54:00.000-07:00To me, this is perfect. I think it explains what a...To me, this is perfect. I think it explains what a lot of people feel/think but cannot articulate. When I was very young, after my Mother died, I was very confrontational, but it did not come from any form of longing for honest debate, but from a place of anger. I got my point across & I did "argue" things I truly believed, I did consider the other points of view, but still it was anger-based. I don't know, in retrospect, how much I truly realized the actual basis at the time, but I see clearly now that it was there. <br /><br />I'm in my 40s now and I "let it go," sometimes too much, even when I have valid information to back myself up if I am in the company of people who just want to hear themselves talk. It is so much wasted energy. And criticism isn't aggression(at least not from me) but many people ALWAYS take it that way. ~Mary<br /><br />ps I am blog hopping today, with almost nothing "planned." A very quiet, calm, latte day for me, but I am so very glad I ran across your blog. I shall be following.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-21076023494295911562009-04-25T12:38:00.000-07:002009-04-25T12:38:00.000-07:00I know several people who never admit they are in ...I know several people who never admit they are in the wrong or apologise - including a woman - and it drives me mad. Then there are the men who say, "you know I didn't mean it," after they have upset you, but can't say sorry.Ellee Seymourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647480320978146418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-75621466168086909652009-04-24T20:12:00.000-07:002009-04-24T20:12:00.000-07:00I love a good-natured intelligent debate, but ther...I love a good-natured intelligent debate, but there is a time and place for everything. If you have emphatically told your friend (who differs in your political beliefs) that you did not want to discuss politics on your vacation, and they promised no politics would be discussed, then proceed to bring up politics almost hourly, well that's just rude.<br /><br />I identified with your grandfather in that I once ended an argument in a draw over the location of the Mason-Dixon line. I did not know <EM>exactly</EM> where it was, but I knew excatly where it <EM>wasn't</EM>. The next time I saw this person I had a highlighted dictionary passage with me.geewitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11590044820333720010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-46715531086108545782009-04-24T20:07:00.000-07:002009-04-24T20:07:00.000-07:00Hi Ian,
Hope all is well with you. :)
On the sub...Hi Ian,<br /><br />Hope all is well with you. :)<br /><br />On the subject of debating i will say I know what I know, and feel what I feel, but damned if I can find the eloquence to lay down those views without spluttering all over the place. At least that has sometimes been the case.<br /><br />Guess I'll never be a lawyer. Ah, well.<br /><br />Still it would be nice to hold a good debate. I've always admired the skill in others---at the same time sometimes being quite annoyed that they HAVE that skill.Spider Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479297567049539490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-68149532391774920312009-04-24T13:25:00.000-07:002009-04-24T13:25:00.000-07:00You show great courage to state your opinion on th...You show great courage to state your opinion on these hot topics. I must say that I am in agreement with you on them though. What does this mean?<br /><br />Sorry I have not been around much lately. Just so busy writing. Thank you for continuing to visit me.Synchronicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07631238942909923311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-27964052312242476322009-04-24T00:42:00.000-07:002009-04-24T00:42:00.000-07:00I totally agree, that listening to reasoned arguem...I totally agree, that listening to reasoned arguement, I have sometimes been persuaded to alter my point of view. As to other lists of contention, I also agree, they are not for me to debate. I prefer to hold my views, & they can hold theirs- Tom Cruise springs to mind, no matter how ludicrous he appeared leaping about on couches on Oprah!<br />I once shocked our employer, by saying I would arm my children with all the knowledge I could about sex, & prevention of pregnancy, should they 'experiment'. I felt sexuality is human nature, & not up for judgement.meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061112627819270427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-37844656989276847562009-04-23T21:45:00.000-07:002009-04-23T21:45:00.000-07:00The art of persuasion and rhetoric (as in the true...The art of persuasion and rhetoric (as in the true meaning of the word rhetoric, not in the perjorative sense politicians wrongly use that word these days) is great fun. So much so I chose to make my living at it.<br />V.Voyagerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02116163756128298793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-37213137084827975462009-04-23T19:56:00.000-07:002009-04-23T19:56:00.000-07:00I had a teacher in college, Mr. Petzel (BB had him...I had a teacher in college, Mr. Petzel (BB had him as a teacher years before I did) and he was great at teaching us the whole argument/debate thing. <br /><br />I once argued with him for almost a whole class that god could not exist. He argued the other side. At one point he said to me - Lilian you can do so much better than that, THINK!!! I had the same argument with BB, I got him to think too.<br /><br />I think that's the thing with people who argue well, they get you to think.<br /><br />I think people don't think enough today.Jazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14644896022880634803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-84618378581633472822009-04-23T19:09:00.000-07:002009-04-23T19:09:00.000-07:00You can't argue those things because they are issu...You can't argue those things because they are issues of morality and that's subjective. All you can do is say why you believe the way you do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23434730.post-73870836492514365102009-04-23T15:45:00.000-07:002009-04-23T15:45:00.000-07:00I'm relieved to find I agree with you on all your ...I'm relieved to find I agree with you on all your "unarguable points" and love that you were able to tell us they were unarguable, while clearly stating your position. Well done.Wenderinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07340237940859669413noreply@blogger.com